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Sunday, January 27, 2008

To Sir With Love

My Dad's Eulogy / partial from me.

Maybe you are here for my mom, maybe my sister or maybe for me. I want to thank you for whatever reason in coming to support our family. I know many of you did not know my dad. For in his years of declining health, he did not get out and greet as many of you as he would have liked or would have in his younger years. But in a sense, you have met our dad, for when you see my sister or me, you see him. We are like our dad in so many ways.

Most people do not want to become their parents but I find it an honor. Many times I say to myself (or my husband likes to remind me—sly little smile intended here)—“I have become my dad.” and I just smile back.

You would be proud dad!

For you have taught me well—even in your last days and in the moments when you were most confused, I would answer you with, “Yes sir or No sir” and you would ask me what was up with the “Sir stuff.” I reminded you how you would not answer Lynn and me when we were younger unless “Sir’’ was tacked on when answering you or anyone. And your legacy lives on in your grandchildren. Remember Chyenne as she came running down from a house as she trick or treated yelling, “Momma, momma, I said my good manners.” The homeowners just giggled but it warmed my heart and I thought of you. I owe that to you dad. Thank you for my “good manners.”

Even to the end you took care of Lynn and me. For in your last moments you and God (of course) gave us a gift that we will cherish forever. You had been unresponsive for days and you woke up and looked at us sitting on both sides of you to say, how much you loved us. In a weak but loving voice you called us by name, I now know how special our names were to you because just weeks before (during another anointed time) you told me why we were named Connie and Lynn. You said because they were “Beautiful names like you both.” And then you went on to say, “You are my little girl and you will always be my little girls. I love you both. You take care of your little sister. You take care of each other.” And then you drifted back into a sleep.

I know in my own work of Hospice that not everyone gets these gifts but we did and we know you probably worked out some deal with God to make it happen.

For Jesus was right there in the room. As earlier when I told you how much Jesus loved you, you said, “I love Him, too.” Then you pointed to the corner of the room and said in a whisper, “Jesus is right there.”

Our time with you was beyond even the Supernatural, it was God! I soon had the nurses watching where they walked because Jesus was in the corner. I wished you could have seen their faces!

Ok... so you made us laugh in the midst of crying. There was the little thing with your Pastor ….He came in to see you and “well, Dad you kind of yelled out Holy (a word that can’t be said in this group)….” I think you caught your pastor off guard. We just sort of held our breath; I mean did you just commit some kind of cardinal sin? But only dad would do such a thing. When I finally had the courage to look your Pastor Les in the eye, he said, “Well, at least it was Holy.”

And Mom, I want you to know Dad always told us how lucky he was to have you and how much he loved you. We are lucky to have you too. Thank you for always being there for dad. And I am glad you received the most special gift as dad entered Heaven, his big beautiful smile; for we know he saw Jesus. You were the one to witness this. It was your unique and extraordinary moment with Heaven.

And now we know:
As dad woke, he envisioned stepping onto a shore but found it to be Heaven;
And as he took hold of a hand, he realized it was the hand of GOD, His Papa.
For the first time he breathes new air— that of celestial air.
The invigoration he now feels, well it is immortality
He has walked from the storm to an indescribable calm
Walking …Dad--you have found HOME…

So today, we weep. Even Jesus wept. Not because of death but because our hearts are broken for this season of separation.

But it is only for a season. For tomorrow, there is a promise—that of eternal life.

I love you Dad.

I celebrate your homecoming and your life—to you— To Sir with Love…..

26 little hearts from you...:

Denise said...

Bless your beautiful heart and soul. This was beyond precious my friend.I know your Dad was smiling down at you today with such love and pride. You were both blessed to be Father and Daughter. I love you more than I can say, please take care.

Mary said...


This is a beautiful tribute to your father and also your mother. You inspire me with your faith. I have a little something for you on my blog.


Denise said...

A fitting tribute for a special Dad.. I pray that as you go through the next few days and months that the grieving will lessen and the memories will cause you to stop and smile.... I am sure that you are such a strength to your Mom...........


Donetta said...

To Sir with Love...shalom Connie

A Stone Gatherer said...

What a beautiful tribute! I am in tears crying for you and your father, but also remembering mine! You are in my prayers!

Anonymous said...

That is so beautiful.

Melli said...

Connie... I love your heart. This IS beautiful... and it is love. And it is God in you. I LOVE it. I don't need to say "bless you"... you ARE blessed.

Patty said...

How beautiful! You are such a precious woman of God!! What a blessing you are. I am still praying for you and Lynn!

Baba's Blog .. Babies Are Special said...

Dear Connie, What special words you spoke about your dad...it gave me chills to feel the presence of Jesus in his room..I hope we all feel the glory when our time comes to leave this world.My blessings to you, your mom , sister and family. Hugs, baba

Donetta said...

Connie the gift of loneliness is...reaching out. Unwrap that gift to those around you who are safe and to your Abba

Anonymous said...

Oh Connie, I have tears pouring down my face, That is so beautiful, I too called my dad Sir at times towards the end. My heart bleeds for you, but you will get through as I did, one day at a time. God Bless You:)

Angie said...

Connie my eyes are pouring...my heart cries for you. This was so beautifully written. Even though you see this more than others in the job you have...it affects you like nothing else to be your own. And your Dad...how proud he is of you today...leaning over the portals of Glory, showing the Father of all, his beautiful girls. Reminding the Father to send His best angels to care and watch over his girls.
I believe he did see Jesus. I believe he had an awesome Escort home. Connie, I am praying for you and your family dear friend. Let me know if I can do anything else. If I lived near,....I'd make you something to eat (what we do around here)....but it would be nothing compared to the food we will all share in Glory with the Father one day!!!(At the Marriage Supper of the Lamb!!!!)
God bless you and give you peace and comfort as only the Father in heaven can.
I love you.

Susanne said...

This was so beautiful!! Thanks for sharing your precious heart with us, Connie!! You are in my prayers...

JUST A MOM said...


thank you back at ya.

Anonymous said...

What an incredible tribute...I am so glad the Lord allowed you to be able to express the magnitude of your love as well as the heart of your father.

I continue to pray for you as you walk each day and experience what each day will bring but know that you are not alone...as I can see from all the comments and I know for sure the comfort of our omnipresent God will tend to you.


Reading your words together with hearing To Sir With Love...I am a puddle...

Sharon said...

What sweet and tender words. I so thank God for giving you such sweet moments to hold on to even toward the end. He is such a gentle savior.
I am glad you got to spend such a sweet time with your Dad.
I am praying for you and yours.
I am glad your Dad got home safely.\o/ ;)

Julie said...

What a beautiful tribute.

Thanks for stopping by today.

Have a blessed day,

Counting Your Blessings said...

Isn't is a blessing that we have had the kind of dads that represent a Heavenly Father?!! Our pastor said one time that there are so many people who struggle with the concept of God as a Father because their own earthly fathers were not Godly. Yet one more thing your dad gave you... Blessings..Polly

Debbie @ Chocolate and Coffee said...

What a beautiful tribute.

Blessings to you my sweet friend.

Donetta said...

Thinking of you and loving you this mornings. Be embraced sweet heart.

Flip Flop Floozie said...

What a nice post today for your dad and about your dad!! He would be very proud of you I am sure!! I am still here in Illinois with my parents. Dad is doing great!! i think that the medication is going to help him with this new diagnose of alzheimers. I will be coming home this Monday the 4th!!
I know you are still so sad.


Linda said...

Bless you, Connie. A beautiful tribute.

Sharon said...

You have been on my heart and in my prayers often in the last few days.
Love you girl.
I have not forgotten you.

Cheryl said...

You did a wonderful job on your tribute to your dad. I just now read that he had passed away. I am sorry for the pain that you are having to endure. It is such a hard thing but you are so strong and you are a good influence for me. I wished I could have been that strong for my dad. You look so much like him in the picture. Thanks for sharing your heart with us. God Bless!

Bev Brandon said...

Beautiful Papa.
Beautiful Hearts.
Beautiful words.
He lived well, loved well, and he suffered well.
Deeply touched your the Beauty of your God you just poured out on all of us from the corner of the room.
Praying for you Psalm 123 as the hand of the slave looks to His master, may your eyes that look to your Father now find HIM in your tremendous loss.
My prayers and love and hugs as your grieve fully for what is now no more...Love, Bev

livin with me said...

This is just beautiful. I am so sorry for the loss of your father. He sounds like he was wonderful man.